How to Have More Luck With...
How can you have more luck with employment? Keep reading.
What about dating, writing, and other endeavors? We'll look at
some of those too. In fact, I'm going to tackle some common complaints
about bad luck or about situations where people want to get luckier.
Then, for each of them, I'm going to apply the lessons from "Secrets
of Lucky People" to suggest a few specific steps to take
to have more good luck. Let's get started...
I want to find a job, and I'm having no luck.
True story: Years ago a friend was complaining about her bad
luck in finding a job. She had applied at the places most likely
to be hiring, she told me, as he sat in my living room at one
in the afternoon. "I'll take anything I can get, but there's
nothing out there," he complained. I told her to start going
door-to-door, literally stopping at every single business on
a street asking if they are hiring, and to keep doing that all
day long every day. She thought it was a "stupid waste of
time," and she got angry with me when I insisted it made
more sense than her approach. She left upset, but went business-to-business
as I suggested, just to prove me wrong. She found a job that
day (and a better one a few months later).
Making your own luck by persevering is the topic of Chapter
11 in Secrets of Lucky People. In it I take a look at how to
persevere. You see, just doing the same thing over and over really
isn't the best way to go. Wise perseverance is the key.
I am unlucky with women, and haven't had a date in years.
Chapter One touches on dating, starting with a true story
of a man who got many dates even though he was kind of a jerk.
His secret was a simple one; he had the courage to keep asking
out women until some said yes. Courage, by the way, is not a
preexisting condition. It comes from taking action even when
you are afraid, and only becomes a character trait when you do
that repeatedly. There are also at least a dozen other techniques
in the book for getting lucky in love.
I want to have more luck with my writing career.
Here are three things you can do to get luckier with your
1. Write at least five days each week.
2. Submit to publishers regularly, and ask for feedback. Some
will tell you why they can't use your articles or book, and you
can adjust your strategy.
3. Self-publish. I did this with a paperback version Secrets
of Lucky People and a Tokyo publisher saw my book and paid me
for the rights to publish it in Japanese. You can also publish
e-books for free via Kindle, which pays you a 70% royalty for
each one sold.
I want to win more games in my chess club.
Play more games, find players you can beat and play them,
and start studying. You can also learn from better players, but
watch what they do as much as what they say.
I want to my lucky break with my singing.
Get up on any stage and sing (see Chapter 1, on courage).
Go where people sing (see Chapter 2, on being in the right
Prepare for your lucky break (see Chapter 3, on luck preparations).
Start hanging around the right people (See Chapter 4).
Talk to people you barely know (see Chapter 5, on the value
What else can you do? Pay attention (Ch. 8), develop the right
frame of mind (Ch 9), adopt useful beliefs (Ch. 17), use what
you have (Ch 20), learn how to motivate yourself (Ch. 30), and
develop the right habits (Ch. 34).
I'm just tired of my bad luck. What can I do?
Bad things happen, and there is no avoiding that fact (and
the painful reality of those events). But often we contribute
to our own bad luck. We do things that are too risky for the
reward, we miss out on a lucky opportunity because we didn't
have the money saved up that was necessary, or we complain instead
of taking action.
I cover "bad luck secrets" in the later chapters
of the book, but one thing you can do right now to have more
luck, is to start looking for the good in the bad things that
happen. Chapter 13, Miss a Flight, Make a Billion, tells
the true story of Richard Branson missing a flight and turning
this inconvenience around into a money-making venture which was
the inspiration for the very successful Virgin Airlines. Don't
think that even the luckiest people have nothing bad happen to
them. How they choose to think and act is what often makes the