How to Be a Lucky Guy
You gain strength, courage,
and confidence by every experience
in which you really stop to look fear in the face.
You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. - Eleanor
Here is a short but true story of a lucky guy, or at least
a guy that got lucky pretty often.
Many years ago, I used to work with a bunch of single guys.
One, whom I'll call Dave, was not well liked by the other guys
at work. This was due in part to the fact that he was a jackass.
There might have also been a bit of envy involved, since Dave
seemed to easily get dates with many of the beautiful women in
This was a mystery to many. Why did a jackass go out with
all the women that the other guys just dreamed about? The solution
was clear to anyone who paid attention: Because he asked them
out! They usually said no, but he just kept asking, until some
of them said yes.
Seriously, isn't this so common? We wonder at the "luck"
of others, when the key is that those lucky people are doing
the simple things we are afraid to do.
Who is more likely to get a date? A man who asks out one woman
or a man who asks out ten?
Who is more likely to get a raise at work, a woman who just
quietly does a good job, or one that does a good job and asks
for a raise?
You have to have the courage to do something if you want the
results of that action. This is obvious stuff, right? Almost
all such "lessons" are, but we need to be reminded.
We also need to take action to put lessons into practice.
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyhow
Recently, I was at one of those free money-making seminars,
and the speaker asked who wanted a hundred-dollar bill. A few
hands went up. When he asked who would come up and get it, only
a few out of hundreds approached the stage. He handed the bill
to the first one there, while the crowd sat watching, too afraid
to embarrass themselves.
Exactly why did this one man get the hundred dollar bill?
Simply because he walked up and took it, while the others were
We can see that fear gets in the way of having "good
luck." What can we do then to have more courage? Well, there
are self-improvement products, such as seminars and tapes and
books that can teach us techniques for overcoming fear. I am
particularly impressed with NLP (neuro-linguistic programming)
techniques myself. These things can help.
A more immediate way to overcome fear is to...
(This is an excerpt from the "Secrets
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